We are all as different as we can be, we men. We come in all
shades and sizes and understanding how different we are is a very wise
move for better co-existence.
That said, there are attributes that we should all posses; attributes
that will lead to attitudes that will foster better relationship with
other men and of course, women.
This list is in no way exhaustive; we could go on and on but these ten things are proven enhancers of a great life:
1. Learn to say: I love you. I am sorry. I forgive
you, after you have learnt to say please and thank you. Say nothing more
afterwards. If you are not absolutely sure, never make these 3
statements. It is better to hurt her honestly than deceive her with a
lie.
2. Cry: Yeah, cry. I know what you are thinking:
‘Cry? How?! Isn’t that what sissies do? A real man doesn’t cry, simple!’
Not exactly bro. Have you ever wondered why women tend to like
vulnerable men? No, I don’t mean you should cry at the drop of a hat or
turn into the mythical bush baby constantly crying for his mat. But
there’s a reason musicians who sing about their vulnerability fill
concert halls…Banky W‘s ‘My Regret and Don’t Break My Heart, as well as
Darey‘s ‘You’re Not the Girl’ and ‘No Stars‘ are constant on every
request list on night shows on radio.
Women have a natural maternal instinct that makes them want to take
care of men; if you refuse to let her see your vulnerable side, you
don’t know what you’re missing.
3. Listen: Yeah, shut up and listen. When people
open up to talk to you, they seldom need you to tell anything; they just
need someone to listen. You will not die suddenly from listening and
not saying anything. Also, don’t monopolise discussions. It’s not always
about you. Shut up and listen.
4. Ask for Help: Trust me, asking for help does not
reduce the size of your manhood. It is absolutely fine to throw your
hands in the air and scream for your friends and family to come to your
aid when push comes to shove. Yes, be careful who you ask but if you are
not surrounded by people you can ask, perhaps you have failed in
cultivating useful relationships? Or, perhaps you love being asked for
assistance but won’t ask others so you can lord it over them? Shame on
you; that’s stuff for kids. Grow up.
5. Dance: Have you ever seen a woman who didn’t find
a man that can dance sexy?! Are you a learner? Get back in good terms
with your feet bro, dancing raises your chances by 101%. I confess to
possessing 2 left legs but when the 3rd bottle of Star kicks in, the
dance miraculously takes over. Rediscover your rhythm, make any dance
space your temple and they’ll come worship…
6. Kick a*s: Talk to the waiter with respect; don’t
verbally or physically abuse people who work for/with you; be kind to
those who seek your assistance; talk to women and other men as you would
expect to be spoken to. But, when the need arises, kick a*s. Kick it so
hard that the mere thought of how you kick someone’s a*s will put the
fear of God in others that they will ensure they don’t do anything that
would require you to kick a*s. Do it sparingly but be bloody good at it.
7. Name your poison: Vodka on the rocks, double,
neat. That’s how a man orders his poison. If you cannot name your poison
with clarity, how can you be trusted with giving precise instructions
or making important decisions?
8. Read an important book: Yes, the Bible, Quran or
the Bhagavad Gita are important texts, if you’re a man of faith. But
you will find yourself in many important settings where the discussion
will not be about religion. Read an important book; test the waters of
knowledge, agree with what you find illuminating, question everything.
9. Cook a meal. It doesn’t have to be anything
elaborate. A simple meal will be equally appreciated, although plain
Indomie noodles does not count. She knows you can’t cook to save your
life but she loves that you can make an effort. It’s the effort that
counts, really.
10. Be loyal to something or someone: Loyalty goes a
long way, in many ways. Be loyal to a brand, a pet, a football club, a
place, a clothing label, an artiste…or somebody. If there’s nothing and
no one you can practically die for, who or what do you live for?
Source:Information NG
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